Dear all,
I'm most interested in healing into death and have felt drawn to this work for a long time, although I have also wondered for ages how on earth I'd get involved and how to approach it. Now something seems to be happening and some opportunities to learn are coming up, so I'm posting not as 'someone who knows' but as someone who is starting to form some ideas.
I look forward to knowing what you other healers do or think.
Thereseems to me to be a perceptiongap for many people - even HPers who one would expect to have a spiritual outlook. They believe this-and-that about the spirit world and the 'other side', yet somehow view death as a bit scary, not quite nice, a shame to be regretted. I see it as a wonderful transition into a far fuller and happier life, a sacred and wonderful and very important moment of release, but also a solemn andgrateful farewell to this amazing and pricelessgift of an earthly life.
Work with the dying is IMOthe sort of work where you simply have to put yourself where the client is, figure out 'what country you're in and what language you're speaking', as it were. Because there's no comfort to anyone in being battered with someone else's certainty when you're struggling with your own doubt and fear. We healers IMHOhave to find a way to feed serenity and confidence into the client's system without ever seeming to persuade or harangue them - a sort of reverse empathy, projecting and anchoringqualities or emotional states,rather than than merely intuitively reading them. All that AND preparing the etheric body to exist vibrantly independent of the astral-physical, so that the client can awake easily and happily to their new condition when they have crossed.
We all (I think) tend to give healing for the 'highest good'; and yet there must be a bit of something more specific going on sometimes too (albeit unacknowledged), as most of us either like to know a bit more about the person who is receiving healing or else some awareness of it is given to us during the process, whether doing distant or contact healing.
I'd like to dare (in a very un-NFSH way ;)) to think for a moment about what Healing into Death really aims to achieve in an ideal situation. (Yes it's important not to diagnose etc etc, but there's no rule againstobserving what seems to be going on.)
When people leave their physical body, it seems to me that often it takes quite a while for them to become aware that they have 'died' and to accept the fact. Naturally there is often a desire to comfort their loved ones and to know that everyone is going to be ok before moving on, but I'm thinking of the stage preceding this. Is it possible and ethical to try to encourage a stronger link between the client's 'personal self' and higher self in the approach to death in order to lift the level of awareness andto reduce anxiety? One might visualise it asintending a better integration of the whole system (like Assagioli's egg), drawing the higher self firmly into thewhole.This of course could not be mentioned to most (conscious) clients without having a completely unhelpful effect, so visualisation (or visualised prayer) might be one of the possible silent tools for this.
Other things we might hope to see is that the etheric is already radiant, balanced and intact on leaving the physical, as this should make it far easier to shed heavier vibrations. By intending to channel healing energies into the subtle bodies, can we help this to happen?
I'd like to think that with some clients it might be possible to give them a sense of more control in the transition, of conscious choice. For example, asking them who they'd like to see meeting them on the other side - maybe a parent or sibling who has gone on ahead. By thinking about this they can send powerful signals and create relief and recognition rather than astonishment, when what they asked for actually happens.
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In short, bv, I certainly agree.
I'd say it's important to leave the body as much as beingthe "Higher Self" (by whatever term) as possible. To leave in fear certainly, and also in pain, would or couldIMO mean a difficult transition from here through the difficult sub-planes, to where they are meant to go. (As an extreme example, addicts to anything physical or emotionally desirous may be earthbound.)
I was prompted to reply sinceI read of the higher Adepts of Tibetan Buddhism (but can't off-hand recall where I read it). Part of their training is or wasto leave utterly consciously and when they choose to. What I recall is one such transition, of such an Adept, but his Master called him back to his body as he'd seen he'd not done it properly. "Now do it again, in full control!"
Of course, not all are Adepts, but the principle must hold true.
Venetian
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hi bv,
we had a discussion about this sort of thing over on the buddhism forum [link= http://www.healthypages.net/forum/tm.asp?m=238202 ]http://www.healthypages.net/forum/tm.asp?m=238202[/link]and if you put phowa into a search engine, there is some detail on how it can be performed.
it may be a place for you to start, to gather thoughts on a way forward. sounds like a good thing you want to do there.
when my mum passed over a couple of months back, i know i got comfort from doing this, giving reiki stuff to her and highest intentions. i hope it helped her too. :o)
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Thanks for that link, Rosi. Phowa does indeed sound like something that might help Big Voice in his quest:D
My grandmother was a salvation army officerfor all her life, and had what most would probably term an 'unshakeable faith' in God. (Quite what she perceived God to be, I'll never know.) When she was dyingin hospital she became very withdrawn and fearful of what would happen when she died, andfeeling abandoned and punished by God her faith was definately on the line. Knowing what I know now, I would have certainly given her some healing and perhaps visualized her leaving peacefully and not in pain.
I'd like to dare (in a very un-NFSH way ;)) to think for a moment about what Healing into Death really aims to achieve in an ideal situation.
Well, I certainly wouldn't try to achieve prolonging somebody's life by giving healing, and of course death is not an indication that the healing hasn't worked. Also, I think it may be unwise to presume we know what happens after death and direct the person to that place- IMO it is far wiser to admit thatfully understanding these things are beyond human conciousness. In other words, I don't have a problem in visualizing that person leaving their body at peace within themselves and in love, but "directing them to another dimension" wouldn'tsit well with me. (Not that you are suggesting that, I was just making a comment!)
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Hi Bigvoice
I have just discovered this thread looking for something else and just wanted to say I had the samethought - to help make the transition into deatha positive experience. I intended contacting Old Folk homes in my area to offer Reiki however did not know how to go about explaining the idea to people without them thinking I was another Harold Shipman....I think perhaps someone should prepare a class as an add-on to Spiritual Healing or Reiki to validate it. What do you think?
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I thought this was a fantastic book, really helpful.
"Final Gifts" Understanding the Special Awareness, Needs, and Communications of the Dying
ANNOTATION
"The authors present the intimate experience of dying through stories about tending to patients at the final stage of life."
FROM THE PUBLISHER
When someone we love is terminally ill, we are often unprepared to deal with the experience. But the dying have much to tell us and give to us. Final Gifts is a deeply moving, groundbreaking book that teaches us how to recognize and "decode" the often symbolic communications of those on the verge of death. In this humane, compassionate, and insightful approach to helping the dying, Callanan and Kelley show families, friends, and other caregivers how to listen to the dying, how to understand and accept what they wish or need to share, and how to learn from this awesome life event in ways that bring understanding, comfort, intimacy, and peace.
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This is a fascinating thread.
When I am asked to do a Healing for someone terminally ill, I offer a 'Peace' instead , its for comfort for the body being in as little pain as possible and removing the fears and anguish, and lettting them able to say their farewells, make their apologies if needs be, explanations etc which so often go to the grave with them.
So perhaps I must stop thinking of it as going to their grave, and going on to the next stage of their Being?
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i dont know much about healing but i wish i did when my partner was ill. he was scared and not sure what was happing to him. he didnt want to die. he told me he was coming home. he passed away 27th may. i now feel lost and cant rest. do any of you think thats cos kol cant rest. i love him with my soul and feel him with me. can we be healed together? i was his treasure and he was my beautiful man we wernt ment to ever be apart. peace. Happiness x
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I am sorry to read of your sadness and yes I do think both of you can be healed togther.
yOu can put yourself on the healing prayer forum and you can pray to your angels for healing for you both
kind wishes
tigress
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ORIGINAL: kolh69
i dont know much about healing but i wish i did when my partner was ill. he was scared and not sure what was happing to him. he didnt want to die. he told me he was coming home. he passed away 27th may. i now feel lost and cant rest. do any of you think thats cos kol cant rest. i love him with my soul and feel him with me. can we be healed together? i was his treasure and he was my beautiful man we wernt ment to ever be apart. peace. Happiness x
I'm sorry for your sad loss. It was only a month ago,no wonder you still feel lost and restless without him. This is whatcame to me when I read your posting. Yourpartner loved life and you and wanted with all his heart to come home to you, that love doesn't stop because he has crossed over but theworry and the being scared does. I don't think he's a restless spirit. I feeljoy andlove,as if hesees everything with new eyesand crystal clear understanding. He wants to wrap you up in that love, its beaming out. I can practically see 2white doves flying around a dovecote. I always think of 2 white doves in a heart like on a wedding cake as symbolic ofeternal love. I think he wants you to feel that love and know that he is all right now.Remember the love you knew and treasure the joy of living, see everything with new eyes, smell the roses, watch the bees, lie in the grass and watch the patterns in the clouds he's love and love's in everything. He'd only ever wish you peace and happiness. He might not have been that effusive in life but its like he's in wonderland now.
I'm sorry if that all seems a bit gushing and over the top,that's just how it came to me. I know you are in pain and there is no quick fix for it, I'm sure there will be lots of healing sent to you through the forum and I sincerely hope it helps.
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Dear kolh69 I am sorry to hear of your loss. I can only imagine what it must be like to lose your soulmate, I lost my mother and that was heartbreaking.It is very early days for you but one thing I can honestly say is that the loss does get easier to bear with time. There comes a time when you wake up in the morning and remember all the good times you had not how sad you feel because the person you love isn't at your side. This may not be much consolation now but hold this thought in your head. Also it is my belief that our life does not end when we leave our earthly body, we survive. With that thought in mind I say talk to your partner, he will hear you, ask for a sign that he hears you and you will get it. Bless you and please accept my love and Reiki light to ease your pain.
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Dear BV
I truly wish I had known of Reiki when my dear Mum was seriously ill with cancer. I may not have been able to help cure her but I could have certainly made her more comfortable. Also she was so frightened and I know that Reiki would have had a positive effect on that. I was fortunate enough to be able to treat a very dear friend at the end of her life and she told me that she felt much better after Reiki - not as afraid, so I think healing into death is a wonderful thing to do.
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Kolh69 [sm=grouphug.gif]
I am so sorry for your loss.
As someone else mentioned there is a forum to request a healing or prayer - I have used it - and it really does work. Grief is a process, a painful one, however acceptance is the end result and until that time, know that we are all thinking of you.
I saw the following on a gravestone and thought I'd share it with you - you may have seen it already but I hope it helps.
Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there, I do not sleep
I am a thousand winds that blow
I am the diamond glints on snow
I am the sunlight on ripened grain
I am the autumn's gentle rain
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circled flight
I am the stars that shine at night
Do not stand at my grave and cry
I am not there I did not die.........
Kol is still with you in spirit.
When we lost a loved one, my children were small, I told then that person was now a star and that they could look into the night sky and still talk to him.
Bless you.