Healing a Broken Heart

RE: Healing a Broken Heart

I am not too sure what spiritual healing would be good.

But if I were in your situation I would get involved with something like doing a hobby or playing some sport or doing some form exercise like yoga to take my mind off things. Or maybe even gardening.

I think these activities can help us to be focused and grounded.

Maybe stop focusing on your husband, and turn the focus onto yourself.

A massage is always great 🙂

I think he will come back when he sees that you are living your life and not letting negative thought patterns control your life.

With regards to spiritual healing, maybe try reiki, I've never been but there are lots of people here on this forum who know about it.

I wish you well on your healing journey 🙂

RE: Healing a Broken Heart

dear iketha

in some ways it is simple... look at it this way:

if you wait for what you want to come to you while experiencing joy and happiness your love willbring whatever it is you need. to do this we need to love our own natures and see this loving nature in all things around. if you start being generous in your heart to all those you meet... smile at the person on the checkout and wish them will...give some kindness to whoever you meet... even justfeeling some empathy and wishing another welland not judging... sooner or later what your experience will respond and bring you abundant blessings.

on the other hand the morewe chase the fasterthe objects of our desire will run away from us. this is because we repel what we want if we are feeling anguish or pain of loss. why should anything be attracted toanguish or pain of loss?

i know this can seem like a hard lesson... i have had to learna similar lessonin my own waybut when we let go we do feel that our prayers are answered... one step at a time...

i do hope you find someone who is able to show you have to find this loving source within your self... they will truely be a spiritual healer... my advice is this: do you feel that the person you are asking for help is able to show you love? do they come across to you as feeling loving, not controling? trust your intuitions; if they do then ask them to help you if not look elsewhere. and it doesn't matter what system they employ... it is your feeling about them that counts... no-one can control love!

love

RE: Healing a Broken Heart

I know what I did to my husband has hurt him a lot and know he is sad and lonely and also if there ever is a chance for us in the future, he has to learn to trust me again that I would never hurt him again.

But, what I want most of all is for him to be happy, not to hurt and not be sad or lonely. Please can you all, if you want to, send loads of healing energy to him. I know he will not be open to it, so how will it work? But please everyone try to send as much healing as you can give. He is one person who does not deserve to be feeling like this!

Thanks you everyone!

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Hi

Norbu, the advice you gave was very good, but I am a bit confused [sm=confused-smiley-012.gif], but somehow strangely that does kinda apply to me.

I guess your advice could apply to a few people.

Marylouise, I shall be sending your husband healing energy so that he may be happy again and I will send you healing energy as well! 🙂

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hi marylouise (sorry ikethagot names mixed up before)

love sees no obstacle.

from a buddhist point of view we have to change ourselves... when we apply compassion and loving kindness to all around we are also applying loving kindness to ourselves. the feeling that arises from empathetic compassion and kindness will bring you peace and healing in your heart. you can apply empathetic compassion and kindness to the person you were; the personwho experienced pain and suffering too. experiencing compassion and lovingkindness to all, incuding ourselves and those we care for, as well as our enemies brings joy and hope and healing. there is no obstacle that this love does not disolve.

from a buddhist point of view, it could be said that all obstacles come from a too fixed view of oneself and too fixed a view of others and all things. we have to ask: "what is it that i am afraid of letting go?" and then we can justfeel compassion and lovingkindness and administer this feeling to our fear, anger, jealousy, or hurt... perhaps we can see this love comingfroma spiritual source... perhaps acelestial being... from anywhere you trust and understand... that will bring a healing.

bydeveloping compassion and lovingkindness towards all beings we are thenopen to the great power that love brings... the greatest and gentlestpower there is. this loving spirit slowly becomes the only important thing... we see the transient nature of those things we though were important and realise we were clinging onto to fixed a view of what things were... and by clinging on too hard to what we thought was important we have actually blocked out the the light of loving to our own hearts and those aroud us. it takes time to learn these lessons well and we are always going to face new obstacles as our horizons expand.

when we grow in understanding and transform our own pain and the sources of that pain all things in our experience adjust themselves to the new view we establish in our hearts... in their owntime and according to their own patterns of development... we do have to be patient sometimes! [&:]

love and peace
norbu

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thank you very much both of you, for the very compassionate posts, I feel such a strong person already and know my hubby is really struggling.

Thank you very much

ml

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[sm=hug.gif] Hello Marylouise,

Keep going to counselling and learn to love yourself, when you have done this you can work on changing your insecurities, show him that the time apare has been productive for yoy and you are making a huge effort to change,when he sees that ,you could get him back, spiritual healing would heal you , you can go to a spiritulist church where they do this,


take care

Thank you Blackcrow for your message, I think it is quite hard to show him I have changed, but very recently I have felt him move towards me again not physically but spiritually. Love is patient and kind and never judges and I will trully give him all the time he needs. Just wish I knew he still loved me!

thanks
ml

:dft009: Hello Marylouise.

Reading your post is like a mirror image of my nieces life. she was left with 2 boys because her fiancee couldnt put up with her insecuritie anymore,
if he went to work she would phone him all the time, to make sure he was there, he warned her many times that her insecurities would drive them apart, and they did.
i told her to go and get counselling CBT, is the best for this, after 6 weeks he saw a difference in her, she came here last night and told me that she has just been to book the venue for her wedding.
it does work give it a go it will do you good.

take care

Blackcrow

Thank you very much for that, I love to hear things like that.

I really hope that he does see a difference in me, cause I really want to put my family back together again and I love and miss him so very much.

thanks, you really cheered me up.

I just keep sending him love and asking for him to find forgiveness.

thanks again

[sm=hug.gif] Hello Marylouise,

learn to love yourself

Pricelss advice.

Counselling, when I went taught me that. Also taught me that its ok to cry, its ok to show weakness, ask for help and above all its ok to be selfish and do things for me!

I hope things are progressing for you.

xx

I think this is a matter of likeness and doing what one's lover wish. I know lots of people, who love to be obsessed by their wives.

There are some people too, who don't like obsessing.

Following the wish of lover is actual love.

Try to get help with meditation and spiritual healing to get rid of obsessing.

Be confident of yourself...try to be meaningful general instead of obsessive in behavior with him.

I am sure you will get him back soon.

Wish you millions of blessings and peace.

Good Luck!

Hi maryluise

As I can see (pardon if I mistake) your problem was because you are too much possessed about him.
Cause of your possession about him, probably was because you are be maltreatment by members of your family, during childhod. As a consequentces of that maltreatment you have constantly deficiency of life energy and you compensate that life energy deficit, by possessing your husband and unconsioussly stealing his energy.

Because that, yours problem isn't psichological, alredy energetic.

You must find some spiritual healer which will heal and repair your energy chakras, which are probably damaged during maltreatment in childhood. Also he must cut off all energetic tendrils, which are your molesters conect with you.

Only after that proces, you can have normal realationship with your husband.

I wonder if anone can help...My husband and I have recently separated due to my issue with control - which stems from insecurities from my childhood....
Does anyone have any advice, guidance or recommendations on any of these things? And why will he come back when I stop obsessing?
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Dear Marylouise,

Are you around?
How are you since you have post this?
I sincerly hope you feel a little better.

If you still have issue with control that is feeling.
If you have obscessive thinkings that is feeling too.
If you are still in love with your husband that is also feelings so I would say Bach flowers remedies would be great to help you.

Bach flower remedies give us the strengh to achieve the changes we want without knowing how to reach them.
They are trully fanstastic as you will see if you give them a try.:)