Hi
I am new here,was wondering if anyone could help me?
I am 34 years old,married with two beautiful children,but deep down I get so depressed and feel so alone.It all started when I was 11 years old when my world fell apart,I was a Daddysgirl and he was taken away from me due to meningitis.When he died my whole world fell apart and I miss him dearly.The trouble is I seem to be obseesed with trying to communicate with him.I have seen many mediums and read tons of books on the subject.I had one contact with him but the medium said that my dad wasn't strong enough to bring the message through,but he was trying hard.He gave some bits and pieces but alot of it I didnt understand.This made me feel even worse because I felt I had let dad down by not knowing what he was trying to say to me.
I have seenthe ghost of the former owner of our houseand often smell perfumes ecta medium told me that I have healing gifts and would be good at indian head massage,she also told me to read a book called The boy who saw true by Cyril Scott Which is about a boy that was born with clairvoyance,she said it would help me understand.But it didnt help because I am not clairvoyant.
I just dont feel settled.
I have lost my confidence and just cant make friends because I am shy.
I feel so alone.
My doctor has given me the usual tablets and the offer of counselling.
Do you think this will help me,because I seem to be going around in circles?
If anyone could send me some healing thoughts to help me I would be ever so grateful.
Love and Light xx
RE: Can anyone help?
Hi Daddysgirl and welcome.
Firstly, healing thoughts being sent to you and I'm sure everyone who reads your post will be doing the same.....so you are not alone in this.
Secondly, when we become obsessed with anything, we tend to push it away from ourselves. It is when we 'let go' of the need that it comes to us.
Life is such a paradox at times! 😮
It is very hard to lose a parent...I know....and especially if you were very close to them. It does feel that your 'search' for your Dad is not allowing you to bring closure into your life, and that youare keeping the pain of his passing alive within you.
Your Dad will want to be with you and to help you....and he is, but in his way. Sometimes when grief is still open like this, our loved ones can keep their distance from us so not to upset us even more.
Keeping the grief 'alive' could be your way of keeping your Dad 'alive' for you...to make him real and so not to feel alone, but it is affecting your life and happiness.
Please let your Dad go, so that you can rest in peace. When you are at peace, the messages that your Dad sends, you will then be able to hear properly because your thoughts and fears are blocking the signals. This is so common and so so easy to do, but when the grieving is allowed to heal properly...when the door is gently closed on it, that is when it opens...ironically!
I do feel that you need to talk out your grief...it doesn't matter how many years have gone by...I've known people who have only really grieved 20 years after the passing...so do not feel guilty about this, or be told that you are, 'being silly and should have got over this by now!' Everyone grieves differently and for however long it takes, but the danger is when it takes over your life....and this it is now doing.
Your Dad hasn't died...he is very much alive..it is only the body that has gone, which is missed and saddens you, but he is there, just let him come to you, when you are ready, instead of trying to go to him because love never dies.
Love and hugs to you Daddysgirl....and he still is you know and always will be!
RE: Can anyone help?
Hi
Thankyou so much for your support,it really helps,what you have said makes alot of sense to me.
I know I must let go but it hard.
Your kind words have given me alot to think about.
takecare x
RE: Can anyone help?
Dear Daddys girl, thinking of you, and after sarah Ks post there is not much I can say, she speaks so wisely.
All I know is that our loved ones are but a breath away, and the love never fades.x
take care, Echo.x
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Sarah, your words were so touching even to me.
Healing thoughts and love are being sent your way, Daddysgirl. I know things will be alright for you, if you let it be. Just because you let this go, doesn't mean you have to stop loving him... and don't forget to love yourself as well.
RE: Can anyone help?
[sm=hug.gif]Hello Daddysgirl.
Loosing someone close is never easy, especially a parent. some people find a lot of comfort in going to mediums but they are no substitute for counselling. you have to grieve for your loss first before you do anything because if you dont you wont be ready to accept a message. and if you are not told what you want to hear you come away feeling much worse. i have had people come to me asking me to try and get messages from their loved ones who have just passed over, because they think that if they get one message they will be ok. but it doesnt work that way.you have to go through the grief first this is where counselling will help you.
you are not the first person who has gone to a medium and come away dissattisfied because you didnt get what you wanted to hear, counselling will help you along your greving path.
then see a medium later if you wish, by the way i am a counsellor as well as a medium.
take care
RE: Can anyone help?
Hi
Thanks to everyone who has given me hope and support. I now know what I must do, just hope I find the right pathway to follow.
I will take up the offer of seeing a counsellor,then maybe when I am sorted my Dad will come to me.I know he is around but a message to know that he is safe and happy would make me feel so muchbetter.
I am so pleased I joined this forum.
Thanks again!
Daddysgirl xx
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