I was just wondering if it is the first inclination of marital counseling to always seek a reconcilation of the two people in the marriage even if only one of them is seeking counseling? Is that the general approach?
Also, how do you move the person (in this case the husband) to broach the subject with his wife, from whom he feels he is no longer connected) to get him to bring his wife to counseling too? He has deep feelings that his marriage cannot be salvaged as he has had an affair and is feeling infatuated with the new woman in his life - to the point of moving away from his wife to take a job to be near the new woman. This is even in light of the fact that he acknowledges the new woman has much prior 'baggage' and cannot even promise she would be faithful to him as she has physical needs that he may not be able to fulfill.
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I'm no expert in this area at all, but in answer to the first part I would say that the inclination should be to aim to provide councelling for whatever the couple want. If they want an amicable seperation then the aim should be for that rather than aiming to get them back together.
The second part i'll leave someone else to answer with more experience in this field.
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I guess I would have thought the first inclination was to get them to define and then solve any problem - rather than provide them with what they think they want. Perhaps in some cases, one spouse is feeling that a divoice is the only option but can be made to see that maybe it is not the only option. Divoice hurts so many people in a lot of ways. I've heard it said that there is no such thing as a successful divoice.