Hello everryone. I don't know if this is the right sub-forum for this or not.
This is far from the worst of my emotional problems but I will try to be realistic about what I can get help with over a forum.
I have a fear of conflict, this probably stemmed from my dad hitting me and my sister and brother if we were to ever disagree with him or simply not do as he said, you don't question, you just do. It may also stem from the TV which did such a good job of constanty drilling into me all the gruesome possibilities life has to offer.
Can someone give me some EFT phrases please so I can tap on them.
I know it is best to work specific incidents with EFT and I am sure there are thousands but I can't seem to recall any. Off the top of my head right now I remember being hit only once but I can't seem to remember why (I am 26).
Any help at all will be appreciated.
Thank you.
Calvin
Hi Calvin,
You are right in thinking that EFT works best when you tap on specific incidents. It does make it a little more challenging when you don't remember particular events, but in that case you can start rather generally:
"Even though I know my dad hit me but I can't remember the details... [+ self-acceptance statement of your choice]
As you continue tapping on this general phrase for a round or two, notice what comes to mind, if anything. Many people find that even if they didn't remember the specifics, some images or words do begin to pop up. It may be just a fleeting fuzzy image, or a phrase - whatever you notice, take a note of that and tap on it, even if it does not seem to be directly relevant. Typically, as you continue to tap, more information will unravel gradually.
If you remember a specific incident, one of the best ways to work with it with EFT is by using the Movie Technique. If you are not familiar with it, you can search for info on Gary Craig's website (I believe that the website will be maintained until the end of March after which it may close because of Gary's impending retirement) - but in a nutshell, you imagine that the memory is like a film and split it into individual frames/shots, tapping on each of the frames - with the words describing whatever it is that you see/hear in the "movie" that causes the emotional intensity.
If you want to p.m. me I could send you a more detailed description of the technique.
Good luck
Masha