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BIRTH & CHOICES

Before becoming embodied, a soul must choose to make that journey. The soul has decided what experiences it would like to have and those include ever more difficult expressions of being. A highly evolved soul will choose more difficult circumstances.

The initial task is to find the parents who will ensure that your chosen pathway will be encouraged. The personalities of the man who will be your father and the woman who will be your mother set up many of the early experiences you will have as a human being. Their relationship with each other, their attitude toward you as an infant and a growing child, their stance as to the moral standards they impart, the flexibility of their opinions, the expectations they hold for you, their willingness to grow and learn, their capacity to express love to each other and themselves, all are known factors before your advent.

Their union is the sharing of more than a casual relationship and the creation of a child is a solemn, yet joyous event. Even their attitude toward this human act will be reflected in your growing. So the parents are chosen according to what guidance they can give to you. Notice that in the choosing of parents no thought is given to the colour of the skin, the social or financial status of the family, the area of the world, or the political situation. These are external factors, which are always secondary to the primary attributes of the persons involved.

Then the specific type of experience is addressed. We mentioned that highly developed souls choose more difficult situations in life. That certainly includes physical disabilities, mental retardation as well as mental instabilities or situations of abuse, but can also incorporate those who exhibit low self-esteem, persons who are homosexual, those who are given for adoption. For example, a soul desiring to experience independence may choose to be born as a multiple—one of four, perhaps. Being born as a twin could also contribute to the inability to find a portion of existence that is yours alone.

There are also accidents that enter into the picture; events that were not planned but have an impact upon the life of that soul. Human neglect or injury during pregnancy or childbirth could impair the ability of the child to function "normally." Improper treatment due to ignorance or misapplied knowledge can have unexpected results, such as the children of Thalidomide in the sixties. These are things that are impacted by the free will of others and cannot be predicted.

So the transition from the body of Spirit into the body of a human is, once again, a monumental, awesome respect for our free will. What we choose they will support. But it is also possible that we can make choices that are too much for our human frailties, especially as we try to deal with them as children. We may mourn the movement away from Spirit so much that we return to it, rejecting the being of humanity. . .

Beyond the choice of parents and the kind of experience sought, all else is dependent upon the free will of every person upon earth. The birth of a handicapped child is not for the edification of the parents, who did not choose that condition; it is for the experience of the child him/herself. A child whose birth resulted in the death of his/her mother will often carry a great deal of guilt. It is not preordained that the child will be the cause of death—how could we explain that as Love?—but the experience will certainly set up a situation where the child will feel a responsibility for what s/he feels is unacceptable.

But it is important to say, also, that the choice of the child is independent of the actions of the ones who provide care. You cannot force a child to be anything by any actions that you take or you fail to take. Neither c