hi everyone
i've never posted in the wicca forum before...
i have recently been dumped by my boyfriend because my ex was still in touch with me (this is not the case anymore), and i really want him back. i know he's not with anyone else and that he still cares for me. i love him and am so heartbroken.
i have been thinking of trying to work a spell to bring him back to me if it's meant to be, just to help things along a bit... i don't want to interfere with free will or manipulate him or anything... it is just an idea really.
however, i don't know much about it and am a little afraid of the concenquences. is it wrong to do this? should i just leave it alone?
can anyone give me some advice please...
thank you so much
sarah
xxx
RE: love spell advice
Nothing to do with Wicca I'm afraid, but let's look at the situation... what was it about your ex boyfriend being in touch with you that your recent boyfriend had a problem with? Is this a jealousy thing? or a lack of security on his part sort of thing? etc.
I don't know much about spells and things like that, but once you look into the situation more, it may be that rather than casting a spell to try and gain for your own advantage, why not perhaps cast a spell to assist with the issues that your recent boyfriend has. If he can then see that in fact there was nothing to worry about then the situation may change back in your favour still. I guess I'm looking at it from the giving side rather than the taking side (no offence intended).
Love and Reiki Hugs
RE: love spell advice
Giles,
Interesting way of approaching the situation. I agree I think this would be the approach that I would take.
Sarah,
A love spell is very tricky, it is hard to do without affecting free will, even if you dont mean to. Simply because all your emotions are involved, and you know the outcome you want. Have a think about what Giles said above, then if it is meant to be then I am sure your ex will see the error of his ways and come back. If he does have security issues then a standard love spell would probably just leave you in the same place in the future.
Neil C
RE: love spell advice
Most wiccans know the threefold law, if you do a spell on someone else, be warned.
Why don't you try just talking to him? Perhaps explaining the situation to him? Then maybe he'll understand. If he loves and cares for you, then there shouldn't be a problem.
Best of luck
RE: love spell advice
hi everyone, thanks for your advice.
i decided against the spell. it just didn't feel right to do it. i think in my heart i knew the relationship wasn't meant to be and was clutching at straws!!
i spoke to him, wouldn't let him get out of explaining himself to me, and finally managed to get it out of him that he doesn't love me and doesn't want to be with me. at least now i can just get over it.
i'm so glad i listened to my intuition!!
thank you again and blessings to you all
xx sarah xx
RE: love spell advice
Hi Feathers,
Glad to hear you decided against the spell and to speak to him directly. Sad to hear the details, but this will enable you to move on. However, letting go of a relationship isnot alwayseasybut allows you to be free to attract new love into your life.
Take care, good luck!
Andrea