Happiness

ahh so does that mean we always yearn for what is on the other side, the grass always seems greener.

Isn't it more 'childhood years are the best of our life'?

:hippy:No childhood years i wouldnt want to see ever again,

thankfully i wont have to, when im gone im not coming back.

take care

Doesn't it just mean 'there is no love like a Mothers love'?

At the recent address by HHDL in Oxford the speaker introducing him, explained that he was welcome to Oxford which roughly transliterated as the pure heavenly land where Boddhisattvas are born of lotuses.

HHDL thought laughed but thought that being born of a mother was probably preferable to being born of a lotus as it was from our mothers that we first experience selfless love. It is this experience of a mother's love, he explained, was the defining feature of our being and was the sources of our learning compassion and loving kindness for others.

In fact it is commonly said by Tibetan Buddhist teachers that we should love and respect all beings as if they were our mothers for through countless lives each one of these numberless beings has been our mother. And learning to have this love for all is perhaps the means and end of making our lives happy and the world a better place.

So, it is a mother's love that is the greatest love as this is the source of all love and kindness.

Norbu

"In fact it is commonly said by Tibetan Buddhist teachers that we should love and respect all beings as if they were our mothers for through countless lives each one of these numberless beings has been our mother. And learning to have this love for all is perhaps the means and end of making our lives happy and the world a better place."

Although obviously I'm familiar with this as a Tibetan Buddhist practitioner, Norbu, personally I've always found it easier to think that all beings have been my brothers and sisters.
As for happiness,as well as from caring for others, it also comes from within us rather than from external stimuli. If we're not content within ourselves then all the wealth and exciting events in the world won't bring us any true and lasting happiness.

Elen

Doesn't it just mean 'there is no love like a Mothers love'?

I think this thing called "mother's love" is a fallacy. Some fathers and grandparents love their children/grandchildren more than the mothers do - and i've seen plenty of mothers who behave appallingly to their kids - so much so that i don't think they deserve them.

I think this thing called "mother's love" is a fallacy. Some fathers and grandparents love their children/grandchildren more than the mothers do - and i've seen plenty of mothers who behave appallingly to their kids - so much so that i don't think they deserve them.

Hi Happygirl, Nobody is saying that Fathers and Grandparents don't love their children as equal as Mothers do.

But saying that a 'Mothers Love' is a fallacy! Well im sorry but find that riduculous IMHO. :rolleyes:

TBH is has nothing to do with Windys statement I just threw it in!

Hi Happygirl, Nobody is saying that Fathers and Grandparents don't love their children as equal as Mothers do.

But saying that a 'Mothers Love' is a fallacy! Well im sorry but find that riduculous IMHO. :rolleyes:

TBH is has nothing to do with Windys statement I just threw it in!

Hi Serendipity,

I think we'll have to agree to disagree on this one. I've met too many mothers who are absolutely terrible. Ones that have sexually, emotionally and physically abused their children. What about ones who kill their own children ? I've had to teach children so traumatised at what their mothers have done to them. Some mothers have only been allowed to see their children there is another adult present - like a social worker, teacher, foster parent etc. Sometimes the child has been deliberately fostered by people as far away from the birth mother as possible. Quite often I've often met fathers and grandparents who care for and love their children/grandchildren much more than the mothers do and have been given custody accordingly. It's probably not what you want to hear - but it's the truth. I've even walked around town and heard how badly some mothers treat their children - I heard one the other day shouting "C'mon spas" to her child. Is this a loving mother ?? I seen them feeding young babies mcDonald's hamburgers or slapping them. Ignorance is no defence. No-one in their right minds should treat a baby or young toddler like this. When my stepson was in hospital there was baby there whose mother only viisited him for 10 minutes in the whole 2 weeks he was there. My stepson had someone with him 24/7 (me and his father took turns) but that poor baby's mother never turned up. We were so shocked - but the nurses said it was common not for parents to come in to see how their children were doing. If he was my baby I'd have been there 24/7 and have made sure I was there for him.

Yes - i certainly believe a mother's love is a fallacy. If you believe totally about a mother's love then you're obviously assuming that all mothers are loving, kind, adore their children and have their best interests at heart (which some mothers are of course - like my own mother who loved me totally). I don't want to argue with you as I find the whole thing about child neglect very upsetting. If you choose to believe that all mothers love their children - then there's nothing I can do to change your mind. I think it's one of the last taboos to be challenged - along with the other one that mothers love their children equally !!

Happygirl,

I'm sorry that you have had bad experiences with 'Mothers' I know not all Mothers are perfect. (although mine is) It would be pretty naive of me to think that, I have obviously hit a nerve with you somewhere and for that I apologise if what I said upset you. But I believe your posting IS spoiling for an argument.

......and with that in mind I am bowing out for a while. :010:

*S*

Sorry girls, Windy did'nt mean to provoke an argument. Can we call a truce?
Please!!!!

But I believe your posting IS spoiling for an argument.

Hi Serendipity,

I'm sorry you thought this way. I said we'd just agree to disagree ;). Yes - it did hit a bit of a raw nerve because although I had a great mother I've seen so many lives ruined by mothers and many instances where the father's love has saved the child. Hopefully this clarifies things.

Windy - no argument. Hope everything is explained above. 🙂

Hi Serendipity,

I'm sorry you thought this way. I said we'd just agree to disagree ;). Yes - it did hit a bit of a raw nerve because although I had a great mother I've seen so many lives ruined by mothers and many instances where the father's love has saved the child. Hopefully this clarifies things.

Windy - no argument. Hope everything is explained above. 🙂

Great - PARENTS hugs all round then! (in thought unfortunately).

Great - PARENTS hugs all round then! (in thought unfortunately).

Hi all!
I've just visited this forum. Happy to get acquainted with you. Thanks.