Hi guys
I had an interesting chat with one of my many coach friends the other day (I have lots of contacts all over the world given my many years in coaching!!) and the subject of "change" came up. It ended up by asking each other an important question "If you had the possibility, what would you change of your present reality and what are you going to do about it?"
So, let me start the ball rolling, with two very powerful quotes. here they are...
I was going to change my shirt, but I changed my mind instead.
Winnie the Pooh
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.
Serenity prayer
Now, let me then ask you, just as this friend asked me...
1. What would you change if you had the possibility (don't worry about any limiting factor)
2. What would you need to do/are you going to do about it to turn it into reality?
RE: What would you change?
Hi Alex
I guess the thing I would really like to change is that I trust everyone, everytime I confide in people and then they let me down, I swear I will not trust everyone again and I always do it again.
To change this I dont know as I try all the time.
RE: What would you change?
Lynda
you touch pn an important issue that we will need to discuss some time soon. But let's focus on you for now.
You have identified a particular issue in your life. What are the effects of it on your life? And what can you do to change that? How would you like it to be different?
RE: What would you change?
Thanks Alex
I feel I get let down all the time because i trust everyone, I may say something to someone because i feel i can trust them and then find they have told other people, or I may have been told something by someone and then I tell it it someone who I think i trust and then of course I am let down. This effects me in a huge way as it is part of the reason I dont like me, and the biggest thing I would like to change. To change I guess I have to think before i speak and to not trust everyone like I do.
RE: What would you change?
Lynda
a bit of impromptu coaching here BTW.
You said...
To change I guess I have to think before i speak and to not trust everyone like I do.
A positive and a negative statement here. What would you need to do to "think before you speak"? I think that very often this is where our hearts play an important part. So, what brings you to "believe2 in people more than it seems you believe in yourself?
RE: What would you change?
Hi Alex
I would try to change my aggressiveness. Apparantly, and on certain issues, I am very aggressive. Yes its true.
How I would change this now, would be to walk away from it, as suggested by you once, and use my 'kick bag' to let it all out once I got home!
RE: What would you change?
I would like to be able to socialise without feeling guilty the next day and wondering what people think of me. People always say I am so serious but I don't think I am. I wish I could laugh more and love myself more and stop worrying what other people think.
Not sure how I will put it right yet
RE: What would you change?
Rose
oh it is so great to see you posting in here again!
I would like to be able to socialise without feeling guilty the next day...
What is making you feel guilty? And guilty about what?
... and wondering what people think of me. People always say I am so serious but I don't think I am.
Rose, you are what you are! You are the best judge of what to be, it does not depend on others. BTW... why are you so serious? Really? No, don't believe that!
I wish I could laugh more and love myself more and stop worrying what other people think.
Ah... that is the issue eh? Yes Rose, loving oneself is an area where so many people have problems. What is causing you to feel like that?
Not sure how I will put it right yet
Well... you are in the right forum to find out!
Take care.
RE: What would you change?
Hi Alex
I would love to stop worrying, I worry abouty not having enough money to pay the bills, worry what people think of me, worry about my rabbit, cat, parents you name it I'll worry about it lol. I hate that I worry so much, when I don't worry about things my life seems to run smoother but then it comes back again.
Not sure on how to stop it tho - easy for everyone around to say "Stop Worrying"!!!
With love
Maria