HI
There I just wanted some advice for potty training a girl.
Story so far:
My baby has just turned 18 months and for the last 2 weeks says poo poo every time she does a number one and number two. I told my health adviser and she said you could try for 2-3 days just to see if she is ready to properly potty train. I did not leave her nappy off all day but just little bouts through out the day. When I first done it and she said poo poo I sat her on the adult toilet and she was okay (she did it only once in the loo) but over the last 3 days she tells me but she does not want to sit on her potty or the toilet and a couple of times she got upset. Funny thing is she still says poo poo and runs to the loo then shys away. She has gone on the carpet several times over the last three days and only once I caught it in the potty she ran to it but would not sit so I put it under her and caught it but she never sat on it. She also a few times has not told me she needed to go.
Does this mean she is not really ready. She cant seem to sit anywhere for any length of time. I dont want to force her if she is not ready. I know its going to be hit and miss and even though she does understand some basic instructions part of me feels I should wait to 2 or should I carry on.
Also I was going to say we should be moving house in the next two months but would she know we are going to move? My boyfriend reckons we should wait until we are in the new house or after christmas after all the excitiment has calmed down. My older sister reckons the earlier you start the longer it can take and I should wait until she is two.
Please advise
Thanks
I am potty training my 2 y 9 month old and its proving difficult. He's been in nappies since then so its something completely new to them. Maybe try in a weeks time but for us we have to potty train him as he has to be out of nappies by school which is in January. We bought some underpants for him and a froggy potty (from Argos) and the pull up pants which I refer to as pants rather than a nappy, but also use a reward system. He is fine doing a wee in the potty but the poo is the hardest. Apparently its hard for them to let it go. So I say to him that when he does a poo in his potty that he gets a present.. so far its been hit and miss and sometimes there have been accidents. It can take a couple of months or even more for them to get used to the idea. Girls are easiest to potty train. Also just keep on saying every half hour or hour do you need to use the potty.
But I don't know, you could try in a months time and if still not ready, try in another month etc. I agree its not nice to force them but praise is the key!
Susan2, I think your little one sounds as if she's not really ready. I think waiting for a good month or even more before you try again would be good because it already sounds as if it's stressing you out. She will pick up on that and the whole situation could become something she develops anxiety about.
We tried a couple of times with ours and then left it for a month or maybe more until she indicated she was ready to try again and by following her lead we found it reasonably stress-free. She was 3 and a half when she stopped nappies, which some people find quite late (especially older generation) but it worked for us.
Good luck with it!!
We tried with our son and all got very stressed and paranoid about it all. We stopped for two months, tried again and then it worked within a week. With our second, a girl we took the same approach, tried it for a week, no joy, put the nappies back on, did not worry over it, tried again two months later, still no joy, two months on, bingo! When they are ready it will be easier. Best to leave it until you can be at home and allow them to have no pants on as this really helps and so you do not have too much on too, kids do pick up on what is happening around them. Good luck, it will happen, try not to worry too much!
I believe its the falling away sensation that children don't like, especially with number two's. I was lucky with my son and he trained really easily, i can remember leaving notes on the wall reminding me to ask him if he needed to go, good times :rolleyes: but i knew a girl who found it really painful to go, so she didn't unless absolutely necessary and then it was very distressing for all concerned.
The best thing is not to get stressed, don't make it a chore, lots of positive feedback, i have just remembered a book i used to read my little'un, "the little princess, I want my potty" should be widely available, just add it in to the book shelf, don't say why your reading it, let the message sink in slowly, i've used books quite a lot actually, i also bought ones about feelings and moods written by jamie lee curtis, my son is 8.5 now and still enjoys them.
Good luck
Shane