Hi guys.
Ended up having a home birth after being sent home from hosptial 30 mins earlier after being told my waters hadn't broke, i wasn't in labour and not having contractions.
Rang the hosptail at 3am to say my waters had broke, went to hosptial and by the time i got checked at 4am was told they hadn't. Got hooked up to a machine and told that i would not be having the water birth i had wanted as '' if i can't handle pain when i'm not in labour or having contractions i would be no good in the birthing pool'' !! These were the words of the midwife who then sent me home 5 hours later with no further checks done since 4am even though i sat on the loo for the whole 5 hours saying i felt like i needed a poo.
The midwife advised me she would cancel my midwife who was calling to my home at 9.30am to give me another sweep as it wasn't needed. Luckly my midwife didn't recieve this message and when she called at 9.30am i was crying sitting on the toilet at home, she said she needed to check the baby and as soon as she did that i could feel the babies head.
The midwife then rushed me to my bed & screamed for my hubby to call an ambulance, cutting a long story short, had the baby at home as wasn't safe to go in the ambulance as the babies heart beat was weak and he was on his way so the ambulance stayed for 2 hours whilst the baby was born & my stitches etc were all done.
I feel very let down my the hospital but glad i had a home birth as i felt it was more relaxing afterwards.
What makes me more angry is that the ambulance had to wait so long whilst it could have been at other calls.
Hi SammyJaney,
Many Congratulations on the birth of your son !! :nature-smiley-008:It sounds as though you've had quite a scary time ... but the really important thing is you're both well ... and how lovely it must be to see his little face after your long wait !!
What have you named him ? And of course we'll all want to know his weight !! 🙂
I know how dissapointing it can be not to have the birth you planned for ... mine wasn't either .... but I'm sure you'll put this behind you and just enjoy being a Mum !!
meridianmoon xx
Congratulations SammyJaney,
What an ordeal. Just goes to show that some people don't have a clue what they're talking about. Anyway that's in the past so let it go and focus yourself on your new family member. 🙂
As for the Ambulance, don't worry or get angry about that. They were there to ensure you were ok and if something more pressing had come up then they would have been called out to it. Risk assessments and stuff would have told them to stay where they were needed at the time and that would have been with you to ensure you were safe and sound. Be thankful to them.
Love and Reiki Hugs
Congratulations Sammy..gosh that sounds like a frightening ordeal, but all's well that ends well and you and your beautiful son are healthy and well.:):)
If I was you I would wait until I get my strength up and right a brief letter to the hospital & send a copy to my GP to make them aware of this midwifes actions and the protential risks she put you and your son in...not to have a bit rant or to make 'heads roll' but to bring it to the attention so it can be looked into so it doesn't happen again
Can't wait to hear more about your little one...:):)
Love
Amy
xxx
Congrats SammyJaney!
Enjoy your beautiful baby, let all the negativity around his birth go. Shower this little boy with pure love, let nothing stand in the way of that.
RxXx:nature-smiley-008:
CONGRATULATIONS!
We have been wondering how you were doing and now you have your lovely son.
Put your scary episode behind you and enjoy motherhood. Having said this, I agree you should make your hospital aware of how you were treated as they will not know there is a problem otherwise. This may have happened to other Mums and should be investigated. The midwife obviously did not listen to you as, from your description, you were obviously in labour.
I'm glad it went well in the end. Happy motherhood.
Maggie xx
Many Congratulations!
Although you went through a rather traumatic time, just enjoy your baby and every minute of being with him. Definitely agree with everyone else about writing a letter of complaint, wish that I had the opportunity to do it too, so get down what happened to you as soon as possible.
All the best and take care now x
Thanks for the replys.
My little boy is called Callum & weighed 7lb 15oz.
I am going to write a complains letter to the hospital, i later found out off my midwife that the midwife i had my problems with has just passed her training!! I'm quite suprised as thought you would be more helpful & double check things etc instead of speaking to people like rubbish. My GP also said i should write and complain
My GP even visited me at home the day after the birth to check Callum over, as i didn't know he was coming i was quite shocked to see him but he just said he had read the notes about how he had been born and wanted to check Callum, for once i felt someone had done something correct.
Had the Health visitor over who was asking about family history etc and i got a bit upset with my mum dying whilst i was pregnant, she now wants to visit me every 2 weeks, told her its not needed & she didn't understand that i'm still upset about my mum.
Like you have all said got a lovley little boy to be happy of how is healthy and that is the main thing.
Think next time i'll just opt for a home birth, will save all the hassle.....lol
Oh and least i know now i can have my baby without any pain relief
Hi,
I know it is not easywhen you lost your mother while you were expecting Callum. A terrible time for you.
I too lost my mother while I was expecting my first baby and then my grandmother died two weeks before he was born! That was 35 years ago! So, I can understand what you are going through.
The best thing for you that has come out of this (apart from the gift of your lovely son) is that you were able to have a home birth. I would have loved to have been able to do that.
Let us know how you get on with your complaint. That newly qualified midwife should have asked for another opinion. I'm a nurse (but not a midwife) and if I come across anything I am not sure of I always seek another opinion. The code of conduct states we must. She will be governed by the same code of conduct.
Hugs and kisses for you and Callum! ((((xxxxx))))
Maggie xx
congratulations on birth of your baby i also had problems with the hospital i went i didnt end up having a home birth but they shudnt treat people like that.my waters broke at home at 12 then i had a show then i got to the hospital to be told i wasnt in labour they made my partner go home as he wasnt needed. i was in so much pain they was supost to bring me tablets n water n no one turned up so in labour i had to go lookin.to cut it short some one finally came to see me i my bed and still said i wasnt in labour it was obly cus i made so much fuss that they took me up to deliver.when i got there i was 9cm so only had gas n air.my partner had only just got home and only just made it.all thanks to them . then i was treated poor when i had my son.
congratulations on the birth of your son, fingers crossed all the traumas are now now over and you can now get on and enjoy being a mummy!
Clair x
Congratulations SammyJaney,
You should be sooooo proud of yourself, especially after everything the silly mw put you through!
Haven't been on for ages, as having own probs at the moment with kidney stones, not much fun when 20 wks gone!
OH read your post & said that he was glad that the ambulance bods were there for you, he loves delivering babies!, & that you probably made their night! much nicer way to spend a couple of hours helpng a mum bring a babe into the world than dealing with time-wasters & those who should know better!
Take care of you both!.....Lynsey x
Just thought i'd let you know i got round to writing a complaint letter & have recieved a letter to say they are looking into it & will get back to me.
Just don't want anyone else to go through the same & think the midwife needs a little word in ther ear.
Will let you know what they say when i hear back
Congrats on your baby.:).
You are lucky to get your health visitor on a regular visit. They are over stretched ( I have a friend whs is one). She is there as a support so use her, once she feels you feel happier so will drop her regular visits.
Enjoy Callum as I'm sure you will.
Hi Sammyjaney, have only just read your fabulous news ...
CONGRATULATIONS!!!!:hug:
A gorgeous baby boy!
Sorry to hear it was all a bit traumatic, but very glad that you are both healthy and well.
Enjoy your new little bundle; he will bring you immense joy & happiness.
Take care, Hannah xxx