[&:]Hi All
Have been with my guy for 7 years and not long moved in together. Am HUGELY happy (scary as it sounds). We have discussed having a baby and he is very very very broody as he already has a kid with a previous partner but has no access (they moved to another country when the kid was 3). We are planning to come off the pill in June and start trying in September but my only worry is that I will lose who i am. It sounds so silly in the scheme of things but i like my independance and i lovemy job. I know it is a life changing thing but I have seen a few people lose themselves completely and I dont like that idea at all.
Am i alone in feeling like this??
xxx
RE: babies; losing your independance
Songstress
It made me feel really sad to read of you morning for your son's childhood.
I have found myself wanting to start a family recently after many years of swearing I never would have or want children. I realise what an emotional minefield it is to have children, but what a wonderful journey.
Borishater
If you feel it's right for you, go for it girl! You seem to have thought deeply about this and have asked other's opinions and how they have coped.
Best of luck.
RE: babies; losing your independance
We always wanted to have children while we were young so that we could enjoy them more and have more energy hehe. We didn't have huge aspirations to travel the world or anything like that, I've already seen various countries as a child and me and my husband had holidays in Ibiza (where we met :)), paris and lisbon before having our children. Our daughter wasn't planned but our son was and now she is 4 and him 2 and a half while we are both 27. I'm a stay at home mum and love it. There's no way I would put my children in a nursery or a childminder but that's my personal views. I am very much into attachment parenting [link= http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130500.asp ]http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130500.asp[/link]a good link that explains it better than I can 🙂 I've always wanted to be a mother and be there all day for my children, I believe that I'm the best person to bring them up and didn't want to miss a thing. I've also looked into home schooling if the children don't flourish in a classroom environment but that will depend on how they like school. A lot of my views are not mainstream regarding babies, children etc but they work for us and that's the most important thing.
I also advocate having children young as you never know how long it will take.
Jodie