Hi my name is Jessica im 16 and i have a bf that ive been with for over 8.5 months we both had sex for the first time into our 3 month...right before we did it i just got home from Arizona to visit grandparents...the day before i got home i had started my period then after it was 42 days since i had my last one...i thought i was pregnant i took a test and it came back negative...which is a good thing mean while ive been writing down when ive had them...well i was supposed to start this week on wednesday or thursday we havent been able to have sex at all in a while..for some reason i didnt have it yet...well today we did it and the condom completely busted...we dont know if it broke when he was getting ready to stop or if he went in me...it was on the blanket immediately i flushed my vaginal area with water what are my chances of being pregnant cuz seriously i cant have a kid right now...someone PLEASE HELP ME!!
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RE: Am I Pregnant?!?! SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!
Hi Jessica,
It sounds like you are in the USA in which case I don't know if they do or do not have the morning-after-pill there. If you can then go to your doctors right away & they may be able to prescribe you it. (Maybe A&E, a pharmacy or a womans health clinicare where you get them over there.) If it's available then that is your best option, just to be on the safe side. You have to get it ASAP though as the sooner you take it the more effective it will be at stopping you becoming pregnant. (You can take it up to 72 hours after sex but sooner is better)
It sounds a bit odd that he doesn't know when it came off... make sure he is more careful next time & you yourself keep an eye on it still being on during sex. If they are put on properly, they tend not to come off too easy although it does happen.
You may want to think about going on the Pill also (aswell as using a condom) so you are doubley covered against pregnancy.
If your period is due around now, thenyou are not at your most fertile stage of your cycle so the chances are your ok, but it is still possible.
Try not to worry, go to your doctors - don't be embarrased to go as they have heard it all before & they have to keep anything you tell them confidential as you are 16. Don't put it off whatever you do - unless you decide having a baby wouldnt be the worst thing in the world.
Anyway good luck,
Corinna.
x
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Thnx A Bunch...but my mom has no clue im not a virgin anymore and im afraid if i tell her then ill be in trouble...:(
RE: Am I Pregnant?!?! SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!
hi jessica [sm=wave.gif]
corinna has given you some excellent advice, and i have nothing else to add apart from going to a family planning clinic if the US has them .
don't worry about what your mum might say for the time being, deal with the most important issue first and go and see a doctor/family planning clinic pronto!!
warm wishes- calla lily x
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ok thnx
RE: Am I Pregnant?!?! SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!
It's probably a good idea to tell your mum, but as you are over 16 (16 or over) you don't have to if you don't want to. Your doctor & any professional you speak to about it has to keep what you say to themselves, so don't worry about it being found out that way.
If you do tell your mum, she may be angry at first (that you're not still a virgin) but she lost her virginity once too & the chances are she went through her mum/dad knowing/finding out/figuring it out, so she may be more understanding than you think.
Corinna
x
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heyy thnx again so i took a test today and it came out negative so iwas really happy..ive been 5 days late but the flu is going around and ive just been having flu like symptoms so what do you guys think???
RE: Am I Pregnant?!?! SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!
Now might be a good time to give your body a rest and chance to rebalance - try a period of celibacy (no sex).
If your boyfriend is not OK about this, then it may be time to reappraise your relationship.
A few years ago, when my daughter was 15, she broke down one day and told me that she thought she was pregnant. Surprisingly I didn't "lose it". I bought a pregnancy testing kit, and explained how to use it, and when she took it the result was negative. I got her an appointment with the doc,and because she was under 16 I had to accompany her. The doctor examined her, did another pregnancy test (also negative) and then he outlined the problems she might encounter if she continued what she was doing.
I spent some time with her and her 'then' boyfriend. He only stayed around a few days and then 'dumped' her, as I knew he would. She is now in a great relationship with a boy she has known since she was 11 (she is now 20).
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nooo thats not the case at all he was the one that brought it up so we re gunna take a few months off and not do any sexual stuff...but its ok its been almost nine months so we can make it lol
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I STARTED MY PERIOD THIS MORNING && IT WAS REALLY HEAVY THIS IS LIKE THE BEST PERIOD EVERR LOL!!!😀
RE: Am I Pregnant?!?! SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME!!
Oh was a sweetie you are... xxx. I'm pleased you've got your period.
Please use this time to think about future sex, and contraception. You are doing the right thing in using condoms as they are the best way to protect yourself against STDs. However for some folk the type of sex they have (energetic sex where you both move around a lot) isn't best suited to ordinary condoms - because as you found out they can tear.
What you might be best investing in are some of those horrible anal sex condoms - which are really thick - recommended for gay men. Not a pleasant thought - and your bloke will complain - but much better than risking an STD, a pregnancy, or another fright like you've just had.
Good luck in the future sweetheart.
Ava x