I am 19 years of age i live with my parents and go to college. I have been feeling depressed and frustrated for a while now and i cant seem to express it to my mom. I have tried many times but she doesn't seem to care much and i cant even talk to her seriously for some reason. She cant trust me anymore for the bad things i have done in the past and for that all i can do is go to college come back right away home. I cant go hang out with my friends or anything outside but go to stores and stuff. Lame stuff like that nothing dealing with the outside world. I feel that i am beginning to become helpless and lonely not being able to go outside and interact with nature. Staying at home has made me anti-social basically, i cant communicate with people much i fell uncomfortable and shy sometimes. Staying at home is making me lazy, bored, not motivated to do anything anymore. I used to be motivated to workout and study for tests but now i am too lazy because it seems pointless and i feel i have nothing to look forward to except coming back to boring home where i also feel trapped. I'm not even motivated to make good grades even though I know I need it to get into a 4 year college. I also used to play basketball with my friends and now i have stopped that too. So i don't know what to do now she seems to not care and i don't know hat else to say to her other than Ive been depressed and cried a lot and i want to hang out again please. and other stuff. I even told her its not good for me to stay in the house a lot i need to get out. And not just going to walk around and stuff because I'm still going to come back to this home all miserable. Like i said i have nothing to look forward to. Please i don't know what i can or should do now. Any Suggestions or advice?
Is your mum not allowing you to go out?
This is what I think - you are a 19 year old woman with your whole life in front of you; and are entitled to go out and have fun with your friends.
Why aren't you doing so?
haha i am a guy and yes my mom wont let me go out because of the trouble ive gotten in in the past but i want her to trust me again and not keep me in side. she is too ignorant to think i can go out again or something. i dont know what to say to her
Is there anyone at college you could talk to about it?
I feel terribly depressed if I stay home too much!
Whatever it is you've done in the past your mother should be giving you a chance to move on from it. You're a grown adult not a child and you should be able to do what you want, this means living your life how you see fit. Yes, we all should respect our parents but this doesn't sound right to me! Find someone to talk to at college and get out with your friends. Hope you work something out.
You say you want to go to college. Is this a different course to the one you're doing now and will this give you the opportunity to move away from home? If so this could be your motivation!
Either way good grades = better job = better money = easier to move out and support yourself so do keep up with your school work!
Sorry I can't offer more advice but there are some fab people on this board who I bet will be able to help 