OMG.. what to do..
My guy hardly gets angry, we live back at his mom's place in a flatlet on the property, he is the only male on the property. So when anything needs repairing its on his shoulders. So I have gotten to a point where I refuse to ask him to do a single thing for me.
Of late, his mood has changed, and seems moody, snappy and just don't want to talk to me.
When he looses his temper he get very mean, and throws things around the flat, I alway say oh shame, he needed to vent. But I am fed up, what when I need to blow off steam... lol.. he turns the issue to him. And things still go flying.. what more should I do.
We do get along with the family most the time, so we don't want to move.
I have changed his diet to more natural foods.
He has less coffee, and more juice, I don't know what more to do
Right now I am simply feeling I could pack a bag and run and hide.
blessings
shaz
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RE: moody men....
give him a big hug and say what a wonder full guy he is
get him a cold beer a good meal and give him a good night of sex
and I bet he will do any thing for you
men are very simple animals really
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give him a big hug and say what a wonder full guy he is
get him a cold beer a good meal and give him a good night of sex
is this a quotation form a 1950's housewife manual?
tigress
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Hi Shaz,
Hmmm now wouldn't it be nice if it was re-written..... 😮
GiveHER a big hug and say what a wonderful woman she is, get HER a cold beer and a good meal and give HER a good night of sex
if anyone knows a guy like thisplease give him my number :D:D:D
Hope it works out ok Shaz
Best wishes
Lilly
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Hey Lilly, that's me! But I don't think my wife will be letting you have my number...!
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no wonder their are lots of angry men out there
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Hi queenfe,
Just my humble opinion but it came to me that maybe you both need to go somewhere that is neautral territory when you are both feeling ok about life in general and talk to each other about this. This way if he loses his temper he can't go throwing things around otherwise he will be in big trouble. So, in a calm and loving atmosphere tell him how you feel, do not accuse him of anything, do not blame etc but just explain from your heart how you feel when he gets like that and that you love him and would like to understand what goes on in his mind on these occassions so that you can try to understand/help him.
Then just listen to what he says. Do not interrupt (even though you may feel aggrieved by what he is saying!), just listen and give him your undivided attention. Once you have heard what is going on in his head then find a way that you two can compromise on( within reason lol!). The idea isfor both of you to listen to each other without interrupting, that means that you are not listening to what is being said but thinking of a response.
Hope this helps.
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
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well put reikiangel
all i am saying if you treat him nicely
most people respond to that, if they dont well its time to take a long hard look
its easy to say he should be do instead of i should
anger is a sign of fustration ,feeling traped, losseing his controll of his world
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LOL..... thanks... lilly43.. I agree, I now want that re written.. hahaha
well we have spoken in public places.. gone on long loving weekends, and even allowed him to tell me whats on his mind.. just today, after last year.. NO MORE..
I went and got a good bottle of wine, put on Pandora.. and sitting back relaxing, this time round he must find his own way out of his mood..
I will have some good me time.. luxury bath, good music, good wine and most of all Im hoping my mood will rub off on him..
thanks
shaz
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1,Stress ? 2, Hen pecked by the other women on the plot? 3, Too much on his shoulders, not always stressful but tireing. errrrrmmmm Affair ?
1, job redundancies? more work on his load? someone causing him grief at work? He could see the personel officer at work, or seek work elsewhere.
2, You'll have to eliminate each.and treat accordingly, if you chat to the other women on the plot and ask them to back off with the jobs,you can see how he goes. l
3, Well, if you feel there is something then there probably is,tackle it.
lyn
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good communication - when my guy gets crabby - usually he is having a very off day - feeling depressed about something really small, but blows it up to this huge situation...
i just try to be optimistic and there for him...i let him know when he wants to talk about it i am always there to listen - and i try to lighten his moods by fixing him a warm bath or a fav meal...whatever i can to cheer him up...
i know sounds 1950'sish - but he always does the same for me when i am in a crabby mood....he lets me vent it out - and i feel like an ass afterwards, and he is very nice to me (which makes me feel worse) and i always apologize....he tells me that its fine...he understands that i was feeling that way at that time - or whatever - and he doesnt hold on to the past - and then usually its followed by ' do you want to go for a walk downtown'.....our favorite past time....
the things you do together build you stronger - and open communication is really fundamental...
hope this helps - Ada
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Thanks...
Well my mood finally worked its charm.. and we spent all last night talking.. and phew.. it was nothing I did. He had an argument with his mom..
wow.. i even started thinking of running away.. lol. well we sorted thanks for allowing me to just be moody..
hugs
shaz
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well done - glad it turned out well!
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hi shaz..i am glad everything worked out....
and as i stated earlier - communication is always key.....it helps even in the weirdest times...
Warm wishes...
Ada
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There's nowt wrong with a 1950's housewife manual......we could learn a lot from it in our modern relationships....
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Hi Queenfe, So glad your both OK, .......Keep smiling.....don't forget to share,as a problem shared is a problem halved. ........your posts help so many other hp folk.....Blessings
much Love
Oakapple
there is a small little way, one day take him to a picnic with only you and him in the nature, make him relax completely then you start making love to him erotically by you doing everything... try it!
LOL pheonix_22!
I'm sure if men cottoned onto what they could get there would be a whole lot more 'moody men'!
Love and light
reikiangel
xxx
give him a big hug and say what a wonder full guy he is
get him a cold beer a good meal and give him a good night of sexand I bet he will do any thing for you
men are very simple animals really
a woman after my own heart.(and body)
there is a small little way, one day take him to a picnic with only you and him in the nature, make him relax completely then you start making love to him erotically by you doing everything... try it!
Grump, mood, tantrum, stamp feet, won't eat.
Please can I have this cure if a certain person reads this!!!!
give him a big hug and say what a wonder full guy he is
get him a cold beer a good meal and give him a good night of sexand I bet he will do any thing for you
men are very simple animals really
I wish my wife followed this mantra when I have had a bad day
And yes, most of us are very simple animals
Old post
Such an old post, but good to have re read this.
I had a giggle about thinking taking hubby for a picnic.. I mean we have so much crime here it is not worth it.
What we do now is work on explaining to each other what is upsetting us.
He still has his moods and still throws things, however not as often. I got him a punching bag and told him to take his moods out on that instead.
We are growing closer and both of us are working on US now and not just me.
Thanks for all the input.
Shaz
Good to read this follow-up, thanks for sharing queenefe
men are very simple animals really
They certainly are, at least on my side of the pond.
Surely there is only one reason for being moody, and that is due to feeling unable to express oneself safely in a meaningful way and to be understood?