bedwetting

RE: bedwetting

HI Donna,

I dont have children but I will try and assist as best I can.

The first thing I would have looked at is psychological issues, if non are apparant to the parents could it be the child has problems at school? if you can eliminate any form of disturbance, worry, anxiety etc then it may be he is afraid to get up to go to the toilet, it may be he is unaware he is wetting the bed, he may sleep very deeply, many issues could be the underlying cause but it is getting to it that is the problem.

Do the parents make a big thing out of it? what is their reaction when he does it? saying things like "you are a young man now you shouldnt do this" will not help. I would still be drawn towards an underlying issue that maybe the child has not disclosed to the parent. stopping drinking a few hours before bed may help or a glass of warm milk. There may be issues with bladder control etc, as a children can usually manage to go throughout the night without getting up, as i said i dont have children but when we sleep as you well know! if we need the loo something is triggered to get us up to go! maybe there is a weakness here.

all in all I am sure the problem will rectify itself. have they asked if nightmares are an issue, something in dreamstate causing the child to wee?

Sorry I cannot be of more help but i hope they can find a solution.

with love

Tammy

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Hopefull
I totally agree with Tamlamb:D with regards to probable causes, (Wow Tamlamb, from a mother of 6, you'll be a cool mum when you do decide to have kids[sm=FIFangel.gif].
The response from the parents is a crutial factor (it needs to be positive).
With Love
Jackie x
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Have lot's of "Patience" and if there is a door that needs opening, in time it will.

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Dear Hopeful

There is usually an emotional reason at the core of this I recommend that you take the child to see a health kinesiologist to access the root cause. He may need a few treatments.

blessings in abundance

kim xx

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Hi there,

I feel for your friend. Having a child that constantly wets their bed (or at least their Dry Nites pants) every night is very draining. My son is a bedwetter and it affects the whole family.

My wife and son have found a website that they love. My boy has started up some friendships via their forum that has helped him feel much better about himself and realise that he is not the only kid out there with this problem.

Best wishes to you all,

Duncan

web address if you're interested is

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Hi Hopefull,
I really feel for your friend. I have a son who's nearly eight now and still wets the bed every night. I've been down the same route with him. Physically there doesn't appear to be a problem, his water is clear, no diabetes, kidney and bladder function are normal. We've tried many things, including a bed wetting alarm, reducing fluid intake before bedtime, making sure he empties his bladder before bed, cutting out caffeine, fizzy drinks and all other bladder stimulants. My G.P has also tried him with the vasopressin hormone spray which like your friends son, seemed to work a bit for a month or so and then didn't work at all. He is also a very happy, intelligent boy who does well at school and has lots of friends. I don't think there is a psychological problem. He is normally well behaved and eats a healthy well balanced diet.
Being a reflexologist myself, I have treated him and found that he only has sensitivity in the appendix/ileocaecal valve area. He used to suffer from unexplained constipation as a toddler which could have caused this. The reflexology has, however, sorted out this problem. I also do a shortened form of Indian Head Massage on him and he thouroughly enjoys both of these therapies. What I have found is that the reflexology in particular puts him into a very deep state of relaxation and causes him to have a very good nights sleep which in turn makes the bedwetting worse because he doesn't wake up!
I've looked at clinical studies of reflexology on bedwetting and found that it makes very little difference in these cases which is a shame when it works so well on many other ailments.
What I've also noticed with him is that he is in general a deep sleeper and does not wake easily (that is why we had problems with the bed wetting alarm - it woke every body else in the house except him!).
He doesn't appear to have nightmares although he does talk a lot in his sleep. What I have noticed is that when he gets over tired or if he is ill then the bedwetting gets worse. It has been known for him to wet 3 times in a night. We try and give him a lot of support and encouragement and really praise him if he has a dry night and don't punish or ridicule him if he is wet.
We have also tried homeopathy, Australian Bush Flower remedies and Cranio Sacral Therapy, all to no avail. The Cranio Sacral Therapy finished about a month ago and we both agreed as therapists that we'd run out of ideas as she could also find nothing physically wrong with him. The only suggestion made was possibly to try hypnotherapy but I am not going to try this. I only hope that he will grow out of it as most children seem to. Bedwetting is a very difficult thing to treat because, scientifically, when no physical disease exists, there is no underlying cause. When you don't know what causes it, you can't treat it. The only comfort we have is that many other families are in the same boat and most children eventually grow out of it.
It may be worth suggesting to your friend that they try one of the therapies that I have mentioned. Every child is different and they may find something that works. Another thing that I've just remembered is a couple of months ago I had a Tarot reading done and I asked a question about my son. The reader said that she thought there was a lot of 'stuff' going on in his head, particularly in his dreams which was probably the cause of it. She thought that it could be linked to past life experiences but on questioning my son, he said that he didn't remember many of his dreams and that he rarely had frightening ones. I personally feel that he is too young and wouldn't understand if I investigated this avenue any further. I don't know if anybody else reading this has any thoughts on the matter. For the time being, I am going to completely drop the issue of bedwetting and hope that this approach may work. Perhaps I'm trying too hard.
I hope that your friend is having some luck and that they find a solution. I know that there is a lot of support out there for families with

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Hiya purple princess,

The very deep sleep conclusion is what my friend has come to. She has found that lifting him, ie taking him to the toilet when she goes to bed, has helped, its not the best way to sort out the problem but it gives her abit of breathing space with regarde to the continuious washing, she is hoping he will just grow out of it, as she as explored all other options to no avail.

Good luck!

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Hi
I'm not sure if this will help at all, and your friend is probably already aware of this, but there is an alarm available that goes off as soon as the child begins to wet, the idea is that the noise will wake the child and they will then be able to go to the loo before they fully wet themselves.
Like I said, I'm not sure if this will help, and your friend probably has heard of it before and may even have tried it, but as a foster carer I once cared for a young (aged 10) boy with many psychological problems and this alarm was effective for him.
Blessings x

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Thank you happy flower for taking the time to reply,

and you were right she has tried it, but the alarm woke everyone in the house,..... but her son:eek:
This is why she came to the conclusion that he wets the bed because he sleeps so heavily!!!,
So far the taking him to toilet when she goes to bed is working, its not the ideal solution but it is working for now!:D

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Hi,

I am a mother of three children, both my boys have been bedwetters and most of my sisters four children suffered too. My oldest now 15 has grown out of it, as did my sisters children, all at puberty. I too went down all the normal channels but nothing worked, I found the best thing was to just not make an issue out of it, the hardest thing is the child coping with sleep overs and cub camp etc, this lead to many years of bullying with my oldest after he wet the bed at cub camp one year [:o]. My youngest boy 9, goes on cub camp this year for the first time [&:] and I am just keeping my fingers crossed!

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Hi Hopefull
Hehe. I thought maybe she'd have tried it but it was worth a try!
I'm glad she has found something that is, for the moment, working, even if it is not ideal.
Best Wishes x