Healing begins and occurs when a change in the pattern of a person’s life changes. This is a major shift in attitude, when the entire person decides to start anew. The person feels a shift, an epiphany and from that moment on, things are different. Working one on one with a person, this shift occurs easily and quickly and it occurs on the 2nd to 4th session.
Part of therapy is to eliminate or bypass resistance. Healing and being healthy is a pattern that already exists within a person, it is already there and available, it already exists, it just needs to be turned on.
How do you turn it on?
· You must have a strong desire and a powerful reason – to be healthy.
· You must be aware of the immense cost and pain if you do not change.
· You must be willing to change.
· You must decide to change.
There is one major hurdle and it is the resistance to change. This resistance to change is what prevents most people from healing from cancer. It is the reason why most people (nearly all) are looking for something to cure their cancer. The equation is, that they want to be the same but not have the cancer. They do not want to change the pattern and yet it is the pattern that is responsible for the cancer. Once again – healing occurs when the pattern is changed!
We as human beings mistakenly believe that if we change, then we won’t be ourselves. The other night, I was watching an interview with Mike Tyson, ex heavyweight world champion boxer on TV. At the end of the interview the interviewer asked Mike, who had a notorious life, “looking back, if you had the chance, would you change anything?” Mike thought for a while and said “No, if I did then I wouldn’t be me!” Ironically the interview was about how Mike’s life has changed recently from bad guy to good guy.
This statement/belief of ‘if I change then I won’t be me’ is incorrect. Because you believe it to be true then of course you will not be prepared or willing to change. When you change, it is the pattern that changes. The pattern is the blueprint, instructions for how you operate and behave but it is not you. Most people believe that they are their behaviors and that simply is not true. Your behavior and self image etc feels like it is you because it is automatic (that is it operates according to the unconscious pattern). It is this identification and attachment to your self image, behavior and pattern that prevents healing and maintains the status quo.
What will it take for you to be willing to dis-identify with your pattern/self image/behaviors?
When you become aware of the total pain and cost of the existing pattern/self image/behaviors and you realize, if you change (your life pattern) you will still be you, though much healthier and happier.
The unfortunate aspect to this is people cling to old beliefs. They really think the Susan G. Komen Run for the Money (cure) is anything but that. It is a huge fund raiser for THEM-period. If the world survives (I have my doubts), they will be celebrating the 'Run for the Money (cure)' in the year 2050. Healing starts within us. I am so frustrated by the 'cancer industry' and what they do in the name of 'health'. Cancer-BIG BUSINESS-invest yourself today !!!!
Hi seatyed
Thank you for this delightful and elegant intro to a healing approach to cancer. I agree with every word. I would like to add three things that are most likely within your approach but are good to emphasise:
1) Use your intuition to uncover your patterns. Intuitive tools such as guided meditation, dreamwork, journaling and card readings can be useful here.
2) Believe that you can choose your future. Things like positive visualisation and the Law of Attraction are helpful. Know that you can visualize yourself healed, well and happy, and that it's useful to do this regularly.
3) Factor in a belief in a greater consciousness than your own - what may be called the Universe, or 'The All That Is'. See it as an incredibly benevolent force in your life; see yourself being able to let go, and trust that you and your loved ones will be looked after in the very best possible way. This is sometimes called 'Grace'.
To kcatdeejay
I am very frustrated too, but accept that is the way it is for now, we can only do our little bit to raise awareness.
Cheers
P.S
Yes the old beliefs certainly do get in the way.
To Suzanne Askham
I agree, your points are necessary. One of the major aspects to healing is that the person assumes control for it is their life. With cancer, part of the cause is that the person (usually) does not have control and does not trust in themselves.
With your third point
Here is a powerful and relevant piece. It is taken from the book "Freedom Is" by Brandon Bays
Let the wisdom of these words sink in.
… You are in the ocean, out of your depth, struggling to stay afloat. The more you struggle the less buoyant you feel. Each effort feels more and more exhausting. Fighting what is, you believe the answer lies in trying harder … reaching, grasping with your whole being, striving with your body, harnessing your mind, trying to focus all of your energy to stay above water … you fight for your life. Your activity becomes frenetic. A sinking futility starts to creep in but you realise you can’t give in, no matter what. You force your mind into high gear. You struggle with all your might. Your striving becomes frantic.
A kind person throws you a life preserver, but it lands just of your reach. Safety is but a few feet away, if only you could grasp it in time. Certain that effort is the only answer, you harness every fibre of your being, desperately trying to grasp the answer to all your prayers … knowing that all peace, all rest, life itself is just an arm’s length away … just out of reach … if only you try harder, the prize of freedom, relaxation, safety will be yours …
But with each fiercely desperate stroke, you end up pushing the life preserver further away. The fight intensifies. You feel your mind is starting to spin out of control. You force it into line … everything depends on this final struggle to win … But your very striving is driving it further … and further … and further away …
Finally, the kind stranger jumps into the water, and when he bobs to the surface all movement ceases. He is just floating. He appears motionless … as if he is just resting, simply trusting. Gently, under the surface, his legs are flowing in the quietest of movements; effortlessly treading water, trusting completely in the ease of Grace. The water becomes still and the life preserver, which is no longer being pushed away by the thrashing around, is free to drift his way … Resting … trusting … relaxing … lap … by lap … by lap … the life preserver finds its way into his hands, and with almost no movement – more a softly whispered prayer than an actual motion, he glides it your way.
You frantically grasp for it and, once again, it drifts just out of your reach. The desperation becomes unbearable …
You hear a reassuring voice say, ‘RELAX … Just RELAX … you’re safe … Trust … All safety is here … everything you need is already here.’ Then, once again, the kind man who trusts the ocean, trusts life, trusts grace, softly floats the life preserver in your direction.
It is only one arm’s length away. The desire to reach for it is fiercely strong. The impulse to grasp arises. ‘One last struggle and I’m there,’ you hear yourself say, but before you can thrust out your hand, you hear the stranger say again, ‘JUST RELAX.’
And something penetrates … it happens in a heartbeat. Against all instincts, against all ingrained beliefs and all societal conditioning, against everything you’ve ever held to be true, you decide to do the impossible. You choose to cease striving … You relax. You relax your mind … you give up all struggle and relax your whole being. You feel your body softening and, miraculously, the life preserver begins to effortlessly drift your way …
Just before it’s ready to softly touch your chest, something happens. Time stops … everything becomes still … Your breathing slows down and becomes easy … The contraction of your mind softens and every ounce of activity ceases. Your body releases all tension and you become aware that you are being softly supported, embraced in an ocean of trust … In the still centre of the silence, you realise that all grace is here, surrounding you, supporting you. All peace is here, all rest is here … And you relax deeply in the restful embrace of grace …
You become aware that the life preserver has just tapped you on the chest … and in that instant you realise that you don’t actually need it, you never needed it. You’re already safe, already whole, already free. You’re floating in an ocean of trust. Life preserver, no life preserver … same, same.
Gently, one arm floats to the side of the preserver, and you look around to see if there is anyone else struggling needlessly in the water … And you become the kind stranger.
A soft smile of irony creeps across your face as you realise the ludicrous insanity of struggling against life. It’s like some big cosmic joke. Everything you had been seeking is recognised to be already here the moment you chose to stop the struggle, relax and trust. This that had seemed so far out of reach is realised to be everywhere, in everything. And that ‘something out there, if only I could get hold of it,’ is realised to be right here, as a vast embrace, constantly supporting you in an ocean of presence.
Cheers
Aah, marvellous. Thank you for sharing, seatyed. I like the points here so much I've put this link on my FB page 🙂
Thanks seatyed. x