My cousin has found two lumps on her breast - Dr. thinks they could just be cysts that need draining but has referred to a specialist who she sees next week. The lumps the Dr. feels are quite high up for the dreaded "C" word.
I'm trying to convince her that they are not cancerous (she's already in a severely depressed state so we don't need this) plus she would surely have other symptoms - feeling ill etc.?
And I've said that I don't think you get "two" lumps close together like she has if it was "C". She had a mammogram in March which was perfectly clear and showed no signs of anything untoward.
Do you get two lumps together high up if it is "C"? And would she be feeling ill, have misshaped breasts, pain, leaky nipples etc.? Which she has none.
You don't always feel ill with cancer , you don't always get those symptoms, and I am unsure about the risks with different positions of lumps on the breast. the thing is the doctor would be negligent if he did NOT refer her.
Getting two lumps together would be incredibly unusual tho........
NO-ONE needs this kind of thing. It happened to me late in 2007 when I had symptoms that COULD be a sign of ovarian or cervical cancer and had to be referred to a similar clinic. However much you tell yourself it almost certainly isn't cancer...you still have the dreaded 'what if' in your mind. But of all the referrals received only a small percentage need further tests...and only some of them will get a diagnosis of cancer. So the statistics are in her favour.
I hope all goes well
I need her to think as positive as I can because of everything else she has gone through the last 18 months and it's one step forward two steps back - I myself don't think it is so I hope that I right! Fingers and everything else crossed!
I need her to think as positive as I can because of everything else she has gone through the last 18 months and it's one step forward two steps back - I myself don't think it is so I hope that I right! Fingers and everything else crossed!
Yes.....but you cannot force people to be positive. Good luck!
Yes she sees the glass as being half empty I see it as being half full!
Is this actually what she needs? Your need to convince her that this is not cancerous could well be preventing her from being able to express her fears. Maybe she simply needs your support whatever these lumps turn out to be.
Believe me she expresses her fears! If I don't try to convince her she will spend all day every day crying - she has got OCD and stress and depression so I have to keep her mood on a positive side. After the last 18 months of two mini strokes, a cancer scare, arterial fibrilation, car crash, severe stress and depression, OCD, I have to keep her positive. I find that if I sympathise too much she plays on it. Many a time I will ring her and she is in a down tearful mood and won't even try to help herself by going to some of the support groups. I try to push her and tell her if she doesn't help herself nobody can do it for her. By the time the phone call is finished the tears have stopped, she is more positive. I've been there myself and it was 50% help and 50% down to yourself. I've had 18 months of this whilst trying to grieve for my mum - I've not been allowed to do this because of worrying about her and as for support - she gets a ton of support from me - I've had her to worry about my partner to worry about and my own health hasn't been brilliant but then is it any wonder - I get to the point where I feel I am at my own breaking point - I can only take so much myself.
You don't have to carry the world.:)
But often "being positive" is a front that we put on for our friends. It can be hard to let someone we care about be miserable, but it isn't up to us to decide what they need.
It's tricky. My dad died of throat cancer and I recently started having swallowing problems. Went for tests and just forget about it in the meantime (symptoms aside!).
I guess it's a challenge to your ability to control your thoughts.
(Oh, it's not cancer but they don't know what the problem is so more tests!)
It's tricky. My dad died of throat cancer and I recently started having swallowing problems. Went for tests and just forget about it in the meantime (symptoms aside!).
I guess it's a challenge to your ability to control your thoughts.
(Oh, it's not cancer but they don't know what the problem is so more tests!)
Keep us informed, Darren. Thinking of you.
You don't have to carry the world.:)
But often "being positive" is a front that we put on for our friends. It can be hard to let someone we care about be miserable, but it isn't up to us to decide what they need.
Thats very true......Sometimes you have to go all the way down before you can come up again. Its possible the best thing you can do for your friend...and indeed yourself...is step back from this so you can focus on your own issues.
Problem being she has no-one else oh and not a friend a cousin:
"My cousin has found two lumps on her breast"
Keep us informed, Darren. Thinking of you.
Thank you. 🙂
Just to let you know my cousin got the all clear - it's not cancer - glands - thank goodness - and a relief
Just to let you know my cousin got the all clear - it's not cancer - glands - thank goodness - and a relief
Glad to hear that. 🙂
Just to let you know my cousin got the all clear - it's not cancer - glands - thank goodness - and a relief
Great news 🙂
It is - we can start moving forward again
Peeww great to hear! I was reading and wanted to reply but was happy to find out at the end that it's all good 🙂
Thank you
Indeed, Good News.
In future it may be good to avoid referring to it as "C" and actually call it what it is... Cancer. By calling it "C" implies that it's something that can't be talked about, or something that people with it should be ashamed of. Even if that's not your intention, that can be how it's read.
Cancer isn't something to be ashamed of, or to be hidden or not talked about. The fact that some people keep referring to it as the "C" word is what has, in the past, made it so hard for people to talk about it. It needs to be talked about, and it needs to be referred to for what it is.
All Love and Reiki Hugs
You may not always feel ill with cancer as symptom.
There are 2 kinds of lumps : malignant lumps & benign lumps.
Anyways, thanks god that your cousin is healthy now 🙂
Great news!