gambling

hi all ,
well what can i say !!!!!!!! where do i start ..... in a brief ,
my husband has a gambling problem , i think , no , i no
he is spending far too much money , and time , i dont no what to do , he s there when ever he feels he can get away with it ,
it s like he is having an affair ,what with the lies , secrecy , and the deceait, and i am sure he would rather be there than any where else , includes me and the boys , which cuts me up badly .
it s been going on now , since christmas , just after , and it came out of no where ,like a bolt ..
he has been through a very tough emotional situation , concerning his parents , and family , and it was around the same time , his job is so very very stressful,so , i do understand he needs a release
, but it s becoming a real problem now , and he cant recongnise it , makes up all these excuses , even parks his car so he is not seen in there.
what to do ??, pulling my hair out , and soon , i think i will pulling his out too ,i feel so helpless, but it s like i can seem my whole life slip away in front of me , and its destroying us . i am loosing all faith , trust in him , i feel lost , as i am sure he does too ....
how do i cope with this ,?? and how does he ?????
peace on earth ,
angeldelight xx