I don't smoke and never have, but do understand that people still have the need.
It's been particularly frought for me over these holidays.
OH smokes a pipe..quite a nice smell with the blend he has, but DD and DS both smoke,, and they take it upon themselves to light up in the kitchen. Now that REALLY annoys me.. and they wont stop. Hard to lay down the law as it were, as OH smokes in there too... So I refuse to cook while they smoke in there.
Its probably been compounded by the fact that people have been home together longer than normal 3 weeks...due to the weather and end of year holidays , so everyone but me including any visitors all smoke...the doors and windows are not opened due to the cold spell we have had.....
How do other people cope..??
I could of course start burning my sage leaves because they really don't like that either :014:
Burn the sage, Fleur, and have done with it!!
I cannot cope with cigarette smoke at all (and bless the ban in public places) - I nearly throw up when I pass someone in the street who is smoking!
I'd tell them to cook their own meals and retreat to the bedroom!
Kitchen?? Yeuch! I'm so pleased you refuse to cook whilst they are puffing in there! Let them go hungry - don't crack! Before my OH gave up completely (25 years ago nearly) I used to fill the house with anti-bac candles - there were so many on one particular evening that he couldn't remember how many fags he'd had because he couldn't taste them due to the smell of the anti-bac candles! Saturation therapy!!
I have never allowed anyone to smoke in my kitchen, or when children have been in the same room. We've been together since 74, but I have never smoked and my OH has always respected my boundaries. I remember visiting his family one Christmas - his Dad, aunt, 3 brothers, 3 sister-in-laws and 11 nieces and nephews (plus a couple of great-nieces who were babies) - every adult, apart from me, smoked. I couldn't eat and spent most of the visit sitting on a deckchair in the back yard. One of his older brothers was a chain smoker - he had the most beautiful golden labrador puppy who was at the party too - the puppy died two years later of lung cancer. The same brother died two years ago, aged 69, still chain smoking - his GP told him that treatment was pointless.
OH now will not have anyone smoking in the house - a real wind-change, for which I am exceedingly grateful. Coincidentally, all the friends that had been smokers when we first knew them, have all given up.
Set some boundaries - after all, you cannot avoid their smoke so they really should not inflict it on you. And yes - burn your sage!!!!
Hi fleur I think thats really selfish. I am a smoker but iwould still say go for it and burn your sage. I have not smoked in the house for a number of years nor would I smoke in someone elses home.
I know its cold but would they not consider going outside? If thats a no then open the windows in the kitchen, shut the door and dont cook.
Give them the choice keep smoking or not eating:):)
Good Luck and have a great 2011.
Love and Light
Linda
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my hubby smokes, I have never. on christmas day we had so many smokers here that I said to hubby to tell them all to smoke outside which they did, he now goes outside most of the time when he lights up, the smoking ban for me is a god send as I used to suffer infections one after the other. the downside is when I have a night out with hubby or friends they disappear from time to time to smoke and I sit there like billy no mates lol
When we have friends round who smoke I do set a little are up outside so they can smoke "in comfort" and not in my house, it is also somewhere I feel comfortable sitting with them, and I do this now and again, as I feel sometime I am isolating my friends, can you try something like this, (there is no heat outside though)
I am a smoker, albeit minimal but, nobody including myself is allowed to smoke in the house as I have children. I will either lock myself out on the balcony or go outside. I also don't smoke in other people's houses or in my car when my children are in it. It's my habit and I don't see why they or any other non smoker should pay the price for that. In my opinion, if there is only one non smoker in the house then all the smokers should go outside. It also makes the paintwork & walls yellow so you have to decorate more often.
Ask them to smoke outside or start burning sage leaves..... amongst other things 😀
Why can’t you quit smoking? Though it may sound silly and negative, it works well. Fear of losing valuable things in life will give immense strength to face and overcome the problems. Think about the side effects of the cigarettes and have fear of losing your health, family, happiness and life. When you start fearing about all the loss you will face due to smoking, you tend to hate smoking and gradually avert from that. Even if you are offered to smoke, you tend to withdraw from that place. Keep trying, ultimately you’ll end up quit smoking and lead a better life.
All the best
Fleur - just stick to your guns. Don't let them smoke in the kitchen, it's awful.
I used to go to a person who worked from home as a "Holistic & Beauty Therapist" and as soon as you opened her door the smell of stale cigarette smoke hit you. It really put me off and other people said the same. "Smoking" just doesn't go alongside "holistic" does it? 😀
She used to blame it on her woodburner but it is quite a different smell and she forgot that the smell was on her hair and clothes as she treated you, which isn't very pleasant if you don't smoke yourself.
Before 2 months ago i smoked regularly,but now i feel very good after quiting my smoking habit .When we have friends round who smoke I do set a little are up outside so they can smoke "in comfort" and not in my house, it is also somewhere I feel comfortable sitting with them, and I do this now and again, as I feel sometime I am isolating my friends, can you try something like this,
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Not fond of people who smoke in doors. I don't smoke in the house because I know others don't like it and it leaves a smell etc. I've been smoking for a while now and I'm working on quitting, with the help of an e-cig
Smoking is just a bad addiction nothing more The people who are addicted to it dont give it easily For them its just like water As human need water as a need They need to smoke And it is well said by someone that Giving up smoking is the easiest thing in the world I knew that because i have done that thousands of time.
I think you should put posters on the effects of smoking all over in the kitchen. try also to advice them why it is necessary to stop smoking. but if they have too, they can have as much of e-cigs as they like.
If you can find photos of people who are smokers and the effect of the cigarettes on their health, you can have them hung all over the house and see how they react to then.
people feels a strange feeling when they smoke and they get addicted to it. You should try to discuss this matter with your fellows. Tell them about your feeling and suggest them to go outside or in another room for smoking.
Discussion is the major element in handling matters.
Don't let them smoke inside the house as it leaves a smell and of course do burn the sages!!! Especially if there are children and you don't want them to do the same when they grow up.